Today Maine became the 5th state to decide to allow same-sex marriage. Yay, Maine! How civilized of y’all.
I’m guessing Texas will be coming along any time now, in, oh, about 55th place.
Y’all are going, “Good god. Ricë’s one of those people who doesn’t even know how many states there are. No wonder she lives in Midland.”
Wrong. I know how many states there are. I also know several more will be added, and they’ll vote to allow same-sex marriage, and Texas will still be down here dragging its boot heels and muttering to itself about “queers” and “the Bible.” ‘Cause you know it was one of the very last to repeal the antimiscegenation laws, and it did that only when forced to by the Supreme Court, in 1967. Otherwise they never would have, and The EGE would have had to choose between moving to Oklahoma to marry me or staying in Texas. There’s not a bit of doubt in my mind that I’d be a 52-year-old spinster sitting in a little apartment in Ponca City with 75 cats and my memories to keep me company.
I don’t know why people care: I don’t know why what someone else does makes any difference. As long as it doesn’t scare the cows.
Same-sex marriage. Why would anyone be against two adults getting married? How does that possibly hurt anyone else? Oh, sure, they talk about benefits and rights and insurance, like all that’s going to change for them just because someone else gets married. Bullshit. Nothing anyone else does in their marriage is going to affect your marriage if you just mind your own business and don’t take out any personal ads using the words “swingers” or “foursome” or, oh, how about “community-wide orgy”? Your marriage is what you make it; nobody else can change it.
If you want to worry about whom someone else marries, you ought to start looking at those guys your sister’s been dating since her divorce, or that woman at bingo who’s been eyeing your daddy ever since he won the state lottery. You know, the one who was paroled last June and has been living in your cousin Tommy’s garage. That woman. Those are the ones you ought to be worrying about.
Otherwise just be glad people find each other and want to go to the hassle of taking a blood test and picking out a dressy outfit and signing a bunch of paperwork just so they can get on with the business of making a life together and, oh, yeah, being able to have insurance and health care and hospital visitations and a shared room down at the nursing home. Get out of their way and wish them luck. Flowers would be a nice touch, too.
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Can you send a boot up the ass to the state of CA please??
My so called 'liberal' state...
*sigh*
Kudos on another great post!!!!!! ;)
You go girl!! I'm right along with you!!
Amen Ricë!
Yay Maine. People really need to get over what people do in private. I mean seriously, who the fuck cares.
Amen Rice! (I really didn't mean to make a bad joke,really lol!) I'm not Christian and I have nothing against Christians and my knowledge of the bible isn't so great...I understand a lot of people object to same sex marriage because they say it says the bible says its wrong...well, from my limited knowledge of the bible I recall it says to go out and populate the world, so of course, if you are doing the same sex thing, you wouldn't be doing any "populating" but all that was thousands of years ago, and I don't think it applies for today, I think the Creator would agree enough populating has been done.
I look at the other species of animals...in them I see some of the females exhibiting some male characteristics and vice versa and I see homosexuality....this tells me, its natural.
I have no doubts that the great state of Utah will be 56th after Texas. Around here civil rights are only for those who listen to "the church", and I am sure that I don't have to tell you which one that is around here. They made sure that civil rights were denied in CA, and more recently in Utah. Thank goodness they don't have any pull in New England.
Ricë, I loved this. Two of my friends went to Iowa this past weekend to get married after 28 years together. Their son and his wife stood up for them as witnesses.
I just wish they hadn't had such a wait. And that they could have done it here in MN.
Placing ads—I just had to laugh.
the problem is the word MARRIAGE.
MARRIAGE is a religious arrangement. What happened to separation of church and state? If churches want to sanction same-sex marriage that is their province. The government and legal system should cover civil arrangements and licenses and leave the religion out of it. This is a prime example of the government meddling in people's private lives
i hate that people have to leave their homes and go somewhere else to get married, roz. i'm glad their family could take time to make the trip with them to do it. our friends here went to canada--i mean, if you're going to have to travel hundreds of miles, you might as well go all the way.
yup! couldn't agree more with you on this one.
This is such a facinating topic. Not the same sex marriage part, that makes as much sense and anything to me. It's the being against it that I don't get.
When this comes up with religious folks, I ask them to refresh my memory on the Bible. I know that twice the bible says that homosexuality is naughty. But how many references are there of love, tolerance, and refraining from judgement. Assuming this Bible stuff is the real deal, where would we say God's priorities are?
that gets me lots of blank stares. More than I usually get. Which as you can imagine, is quite a lot.
I say good on them! I'm am totally unconvinced that letting two adults of the same sex find a little happiness with each other in any way affects how married I am. Are they hurting anybody? NO! So leave them alone already.
And actually, the State doesn't recognize a marriage just because it's done by a "church", no, you have to go to the STATE and get a license, so no, it's really not a religious thing, it just gives those "focus on the family" crazies something to yell about -- they should go focus on their only families
Well unfortunately Bev, the "state "mentions the word "marriage" in the Constitution. ( someone who knows a whole lot more than I do on this topic explained that this is why they feel entitled to do more than just license) I was ranting on this topic and it was explained this way to me. Now I don't know whether the Constitution defines it explicitly, but this give the crazies ample ammunition. Sad.
and where does all this crap about marriage come from? why, from the idea that women were chattel, given by their fathers to the man who would marry them. of COURSE the state had to have a say. marriage, the legal institution, was never about love and romance. try lineage and fortune, the mingling of kingdoms.
I think if we homos stopped doing all of the (okay, a LOT of) the floral arrangements, planning, dress designing, catering, etc, etc of heterosexual weddings and suddenly Little Right Wing Princess couldn't have the wedding of her dreams, folks would be REAL quick to say "what the hell, let them 'mo's marry!"
great idea, cynjon. of course, i've written before about my opinion about the big, huge-ass weddings women want. but still: wouldn't it be cool if they couldn't have them until they sucked up? ooooh, think of the fun!
I have to admit that I get a special little thrill picturing the various melt-downs in my deviant little mind.
People are often surprised to find out that I actually don't support gay marriage...or at least not Christian gay marriage.
Do I want to have all the legal rights granted to heterosexual couples? Sure.
What stumps me is the need/desire to seek acceptance and validation from a religion that does *not* condone who you are as a person. Now, I realize that I can't make a blanket statement regarding all branches of Christianity, and many *do* accept us, and things are changing within the church, yadda yadda yadda...but for the large part, we're a Big No-No.
Give me my rights, thank you, make me and mine equals, but I don't need to be married.
This is a GREAT post and I couldn't agree more with comments made especially by Chris. I was raised a Catholic. In grade school I had a Liberal priest who was before his time explain that he believed the Bible was a story. Fiction. I have always remembered and believed that. Leave religion out of government and let the Conservatives not judge those that do not agree with them.
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